Rising up, one adage that I knew to be true was that you just completely don’t ask a lady her age. It was all the time one thing to be coy about—the implication being that not solely was it intrusive to ask, however that it’s greatest to not put the lady within the uncomfortable state of affairs the place both she is is likely to be judged … or would possibly lie. Age was all the time the elephant within the room however as Bob Dylan mentioned … 🎵 the occasions they’re a’altering 🎶 .
An increasing number of ladies are getting snug embracing and sharing their age with pleasure and I feel it’s due largely to the truth that ladies have begun to redefine what it means to age on our personal phrases. Whether or not it’s by skincare routines, well being regimens, or just the selection to flaunt our silver strands (or not), fashionable ladies are transferring past outdated stereotypes and now have the liberty to outline our personal narratives.
How Turning 50 Used to Look
After I was a younger lady, 50+ yr outdated ladies all the time regarded a particular means. I’m positive you’ve seen the memes concerning the Golden Ladies, or keep in mind from the present, Dorothy, Rose and Blanche have been ladies of their 50s. On this formative time in my girlhood after I was watching the present (I used to be 10 when it got here out in 1985), they regarded like my grandmothers and have been lively like my grandmothers however the purpose it stands out a lot now’s that by immediately’s lens they appear a lot older.
I’m turning 50 in a couple of months, I can’t assist however take into consideration what it should have been like throughout that point, and feeling like that was the embodiment of being in your 50s.
How Turning 50 Has Modified
Over time, the portrayal of growing old has actually modified. 10 years in the past The At present Present put collectively a slideshow of being in your 50s “then and now” that confirmed stark distinction, particularly among the many ladies. One notable movie star featured was Courteney Cox alongside Aunt Bee from The Andy Griffith present.
In an interview in 2013 in New You journal Cox herself spoke about growing old. The interviewer famous that there have been numerous exhibits on the time the place the principle character was in her 40s or 50s (Cox was starring on the present Cougar City) to which Cox attributed that to, “I really feel like nobody actually seems their age anymore.” Additional within the article, she talks about her worry of turning 50 and in addition her use of anti-aging merchandise together with injectables, which on the time was not usually brazenly mentioned, particularly amongst celebrities.
Quick ahead to immediately—actually there’ll all the time be individuals who really feel it’s nobody’s enterprise to know their age they usually would possibly even lie about it for worry it may jeopardize their careers, relationships, and so on., but it surely’s changing into extra widespread that girls are proudly saying their age and embracing it as a result of extra ladies are growing old on their very own phrases. There isn’t a longer one look that represents a particular age.
At present, celebrities will endorse and host infomercials speaking about anti-aging merchandise that give them “confidence in my physique and definitely my pores and skin” (Jane Seymore for Crepe Erase). They may also stand outdoors the US Capitol shouting to a crowd, “I’m in menopause, OK?” and insisting that “the disgrace must be taken out of menopause. We’ve got to speak about this very regular a part of our life that occurs. Our docs can’t even say the phrase to us, not to mention stroll us by the journey,” (Halle Berry in Could 2024).
At present’s girl has house to age as she needs to—injectables and menopause hormone therapies are spoken of collectively across the espresso store, not whispered quietly about in line for the Girls Room. There’s nobody “proper” technique to be 50—or any age, for that matter.
Personally, my 50 will embrace lotions and serums, hair coloration (spoiler alert, I’m not naturally crimson), inexperienced drinks, hopefully a couple of extra marathons and conversations with my mates concerning the present state of my perimenopause journey. However I can confidently say that these merchandise and my wardrobe aren’t about some quest to be perceived as younger as a result of I’ll inform anybody who asks my age. After which once more, perhaps sometime I’ll need beautiful silver hair or to put on glasses on a regular basis, however I like that now it’s as much as me.
Your 50 will look completely completely different from mine—and the way cool is that?! Every of us has the chance to create our personal path ahead … and to personal it.
Hey, yeah … 50 is the brand new 50!
Share your individual experiences and insights about turning 50 and past. —Tam
